Feel More Sensation and Intimate
from Communication during Orgasm
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Communication and Feeling More (3:47)
Saying what you notice while using Deliberate Orgasm can lead to feeling more intimate and more sensation. In this audio clip two Deliberate Orgasm students answer intimate questions on their communication during orgasm, DO dates, and what they communicate about in their relationship. |
Feeling more pleasure and intimate from communication during orgasm also adds fun to a relationship
A Welcomed Consensus instructor interviews Becca and David, who have
incorporated Deliberate Orgasm in their relationship for over nine
years.Question: Do you communicate during Deliberate Orgasm DO Dates, and what do you communicate about?
Becca: Yes, we communicate during DO dates. Mainly about what we're feeling and experiencing together. It can be sometimes we will notice that we are experiencing something the same. I'll say "Wow, that feels like there is waves" and he'll say "You know, I felt something like that too".
Or he'll say "It feels like a jelly fish", and I'll say "I know exactly what you're talking about". Sometimes it is one of those things, where he'll say "I know it sounds strange to say a jellyfish", and I'll say "I know what you mean when you say that because it feels like it's glomming on, there's waves".
It is fun to come up with the words for the new experiences that we are having. Mainly that is what we talk about.
There are times when I will have a random thought that comes by, "Okay, I just have to tell you I left the turkey in the oven and I started to worry about that" then he'll say "okay, now I know what that thought was". Or he'll ask me "It feels like you are thinking about something?" and I can tell him. Or he'll say what he notices and I'll say what I notice too, with both of our attention on the one person's body.
David: She said a lot there, and it comes down to what I notice, and what I'm going to be willing to say. There are times when there are just so many changes going on and so many sensations coming up, "this stroke I feel these waves coming up my arms" and when I say that, she gives me reality about it. She is in agreement with that. It is "okay good, I can feel that" and it gives me reality.
It also gives us the next place to step off from, in the next date. Then there are times when I notice she may have a random thought like she said and go away - and I'll say "did you go away?" and she'll say "yes" and come back to feeling. It just comes down to individual strokes and what we are feeling in the present moment. And stay really present with her - it's really fun, yeah, absolutely.
Question: What does it mean to you to focus your attention on her body?
David: Well that is one of the definitions of a DO date, Deliberate Orgasm. We both get to put our attention on the most sensitive part of her body, which is her clitoris. When stroking we both have our attention on that. We feel so much. I get to experience her orgasm in my body. I get to experience her gratification in my body. I get to experience her being a woman, gratified and happy. So that is what I get out of it, a happy gratified woman that is great to be around. My friend and so much fun to be around.
You just keep looking forward to the next date, and the next date, and having communication and talking about that.
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